The thoughts of Matthew Crist, a designer in Boston.

Jan 4, 2015

Year One

This is a story of two children and their first year of life. I possess intimate knowledge of the story as I am their father.

I’ll begin with a boy named Phineas. When Phineas was born, I would have sworn that he was the cutest baby in the land. His first year was spent enjoying the adulation of the world for his cuteness, his strength, and the shear public amazement of how smart he was.

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We couldn’t go anywhere without people stopping us to comment on him. It was rather annoying. His first year was what I would expect a baby to experience in their first year of life.

He’s three now, and while his new baby cuteness has worn off, his life has been relatively uneventful. At least it was before his sister was born.

Scarlett is just coming up on being a year old. As of this writing she is 10 months old. As cuteness goes, she definitely surpassed her brother in that department by miles. Her first year hasn’t been as stereotypical as her brother though.

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Before the age of 4 months, Scarlett was called a whore. Her mother and I aren’t sure why this person decided get in her face and scream whore repeatedly. Our best guess is mental instability. Unfortunately, it’s not just happened once, but twice on two separate occasions with two separate people.

Before the age of 6 months, Scarlett was spit at for staring at a women’s man. We’re sure this is another instance of mental instability, but a pattern is starting to form.

Around 6 months, Scarlett got to witness a man pleasure himself in front of her (for about 2 seconds, before we got the fuck out that situation).

All of this before turning 10 months old.

It’s been great to see movement within the tech community to attempt to fix issues related to gender and diversity. Codes of Conduct and helping everyone feel safe is a great idea. We need to move out of tech though.

My daughter may not want to ever touch a computer and she’s going to run into the same bullshit that exists in tech in pretty much any other industry. Where are those Codes of Conduct going to come from?

It has to start somewhere and I’m happy to see my industry starting to form the tip of the spear for real change. The move to the greater world can’t happen soon enough for me.

As a father, there is a responsibility to teach my children that each is capable of limitless potential and that there is nothing that should get in their way and that as humans they shouldn’t impede anyone else from reaching their potential.